A big advice I want to share with you is to bring yourself back in the Now and enjoy present moments!
Because the only thing we actually have in life, is the ability to live in the present.

I came across this wonderful quote a few months ago that stroke me as the mere truth of life:

Nothing has happened in the past; it happened in the Now. Nothing will ever happen in the future; it will happen in the Now. What you think of the past is a memory trace, stored in the mind, of the former Now (…). The future is an imagined Now, a projection of the mind – Eckhart Tolle

That’s pure truth. The only power we have on life resides in living the present moment we are given. I can only recommend you to read this book: The power of Now from Eckhart Tolle.

Life against enjoying present moments

The main problem is that we forget to be grateful to simply be there, to be alive, to be breathing. We are often caught up with problems, stress, thoughts and forget to pay attention to what is the most important: what is happening now.

You can only decide to be someone, do something or have something in the real moment. Nothing will replace this present decision. Ruminating about the past will not bring this back and thinking or worrying too much about the future will never guarantee you to reach it.

However, we almost all spend more time meandering in thoughts than “living”. Between worries, pains, self-dictates, longing for a different life, careless things. The list is endless. Maybe these sound familiar to you:

  • I should do this, should be that
  • Maybe others will think … this of me
  • I am afraid of …
  • Cant stop thinking about what she said to me

I am not saying that it is easy to get away from these overwhelming thoughts. Nevertheless, I would suggest to start recognizing the moments where you are out of the “Now”. These moments where the unconscious is taking the lead and driving you instead of you driving your mind to achieve what you want.

 

Here are a few examples of what I developed throughout my life to enjoy present moments:

1. Meditation

My top one, which has been a strong life-changer is Meditation!

Meditating has been for me a great dive in who I am. I tried out different forms of meditation until I found what I liked and what was the most meaningful to me. I do meditate almost every morning and some evenings as well.

We are all getting different experiences and results through meditation. They go from stress reduction, better sleep, stronger willpower, improved overall health, increased happiness, better focus … list is endless.

My biggest advice for meditation is to not set any expectations. Do not expect to see sudden changes after your first 10 mins or do not expect to become a totally new person. Results are specific to each of us and you should let them come as they come. Only start this practice when you sincerely feel ready and in line with it.

2. Paying attention to my breathing

As simple as that sound, I have also developed the habit of paying attention when I breathe. Actually, I use 2 different ways: specific exercises (where I intend to breathe in a certain way) and simply noticing the way I currently breath.

I have researched about the benefits of breath techniques and found out a goldmine of health benefits. From times to times, depending on my objectives I would spend 5 to 10 mins breathing in a certain way to get specific results.

On another side, I often catch myself during the day at any given moment to remind me that: this mere action of breathing is a gift. That can be anytime, anywhere, I would stop for a few seconds to enjoy a deep inhale and exhale.

3. Enjoying what surrounds me

Thirdly, another tip I have is to appreciate simple as silly moments of my life. I think I developed this for a double purpose: to be conscious of the present and to be grateful for what I feel.

I would generally do this when I am outside, wherever that can be. As I walk, as I stand, as I wait for a bus or train: I look around. We too often do things mechanically as we get used to them. This is where travelling taught me to enjoy all the simple things even more the ones you do every day, because they will anchor precious memories.

There is beauty everywhere… In the trees beside your house, in the child smiling across the road, in the clouds above your head, in the smell from the restaurant at the corner, in the feeling of this unique moment.

4. Being present and focused

My last one is to be present and focused on the Now at most time. Cannot say I do it all the time, oh no! At least I am committed to enjoying most of these moments, wherever I am, whoever I am with.

This is an old decision, as I realized many years ago that during parties, dinners, gatherings many of us were spending the majority of time on their phone. Generally the purpose is to show on social networks “how great the moment is”. How can you know the moment is great is the present is disturbed by this will of showing off?
Alternatively, the reason can be that the moment is not of interest for someone and the person judges it is better for her to use her phone or enjoy something different. Fair enough! But in this case I would advise not to stay somewhere or force yourself to do what you don’t want.

Thus, when I am with my friends, my family, at events, my work, most of the time I am focused. Enjoy present moments and be authentic.

 

Off you go, enjoy present moments!

I hope you get some value out of this long message! I did not expect it to be so long, still I do hope you got some ideas and tips to find your own keys in living the present moment.

Additionally to the above quote, I leave you with this last one from Eckhart Tolle too:

Time isn’t precious at all, because it is an illusion. What you perceive as precious is not time but the one point that is out of time: the Now. That is precious indeed. The more you are focused on time—past and future—the more you miss the Now, the most precious thing there is.

 

Tip for the day: catch yourself at least once today, look around you and feel how great it is to be alive.

If you have any questions, feel free to contact me at hello@aliceavril.com so we can discuss that.

Thank you,

Alice Avril, Self-Mastery Coach
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